I Dare You to go Down the Rabbit Hole

They say not to go down the rabbit hole (whoever "they" are). But that's exactly what I did, and I dare you to do the same.

For years my son experienced chronic pain, swelling, asthma attacks, severe illness, fatigue, hives, vomiting, rashes, and was barely able to walk up the stairs. The medical system gave us diagnoses and sent us home with the message that this was just how life would be. "Manage it," they said. "Adapt," they said. "Learn to live with limitations."

I said no.

No to accepting that for my son. No to a life of survival when thriving was possible. No to a world that told me my child needed to change, adapt, deal with it, instead of questioning why the world had become so toxic that children couldn't exist in it without suffering.

The Deep Dive

So I went down the rabbit hole. I questioned everything. I rebuilt everything. And now my family lives in a way that most people would call extreme, isolated, or "too much." We live a lifestyle I’ve dubbed The Eðli Way. The core framework is built upon complete alignment with nature, organic food systems, and living free of pet dander, VOCs, plastics, synthetic fragrances and chemicals, grains, gluten, dairy, and nuts. 

The result? More than surviving. More than healing. Absolute Thriving. Not just for my son. For the entire family. There is a beautiful clarity in the way we live. 

The Courage to Share

Here's where I’m at: I'm not ashamed of how we live. I'm proud. My son thrives. My family is healthier and happier than we've ever been. But sharing this feels vulnerable because I know how it sounds to people who think the modern world is fine, brilliant, even, and who think we're the problem, who think we should just learn to cope better.

I'm not here for pity. I'm not here to convince anyone that my way is the only way. But I am here to share, hopefully inspire, and shout to my rare counterparts that you are not alone, my friends. 

You Are Not the Only Ones

I know you’re out there. And I know you feel like you’re the only ones, you and your family navigating a world that doesn't understand why you can't just "deal with it" like everyone else. Maybe you're still living in horrendous pain, going in circles trying to find the root cause, questioning your sanity, and I’m here to say I’ve been there too. In the very beginning, that was me, my family, too.

I see you. I feel your pain. Your desperation. Your hopelessness. Your heartache. 

I'm here because there are families right now living in the hell we escaped, and they don't know that escape is even possible. And if they do find their way to thriving, they will still be alone, and they shouldn't be. We shouldn't be.

Beyond Surviving: No Longer Hiding our Life...

I'll admit... I'm struggling, friends.

This week has been one that’s been exceedingly difficult. I struggle to share our story and our daily lives... because I don't like the way it reads and sounds to most people. It doesn’t resonate. It doesn’t feel authentic. It doesn’t feel like my reality. I don’t want to share all our “problems” and be pitied. It’s against everything I believe in. But I understand that people have to understand our reality, and the rarity of our life makes it’s incomprehensible for the majority of people. And so I’ve been feeling as though I have to emphasize and share the stark differences in our lives. But it just doesn’t feel right.

So, we’re not going to share our woes. We’re going to share our resilience. Our ability to thrive, be innovative, creative, intelligent, and loving beyond belief. That’s who our children are.

The Choice is Yours

Is our lifestyle different from the mainstream? Absolutely. 

Is it more work and inconvenient as opposed to the masses? Of course. 

 But, do I love the purity of our lifestyle? YES.

And by expanding this, we can create a place of belonging and thrivability for our population and anyone who is willing to lead this lifestyle. 

The rabbit hole isn’t something to fear. It’s the path to truth. It’s the journey from surviving to thriving. It’s the way forward for families who refuse to accept that suffering is simply “how it is.” 

We can’t wait to meet you.

🖤 Victoria, feeling vulnerable today